“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to goal, not people
or things.”
Are you happy? If your answer is yes,
then great; it means you know yourself. If your answer is no, then you are
unaware of yourself. If you are not happy, then ask yourself why not.
Here are a few general and simple questions for you?
Q. Can you see with your eyes?
Of course, you can.
Q. Can you hear with your ears?
Of course, you can.
Q. Can you smell with your
nose?
Of course, you can.
Q. Can you taste with your
tongue?
Of course, you can.
Q. Can you speak with your
mouth?
Of course, you can.
Q. Can you work with your
hands?
Q. Can you walk with your legs?
Of course, you can.
Q. Can you think with your
brain?
Of course, you can.
I know all your answers are yes,
positive and affirmative, there is no doubt about it. Now, if you are born with
absolutely sound and healthy in this world, then what things are bothering you
to remain unhappy in your life? Almighty God has gifted you all the wonderful
organs to be happy in your life.
Many of you might say, these things
will not bring happiness in life. Since, these human organs are normal at all,
gifted from birth. But, here you might have forgotten that you are born in this
world to be happy in your life while using all these wonderful organs (To see,
to hear, to feel, to taste, to speak, to walk, to work and to think). It is in
your nature from the moment you born in this world.
What does it signify to you? It only
signifies to you that happiness is in your gene right from your birth. But, as
long as you start living your life and attach to the materialistic world, you
start forgetting your true nature of happiness. You start chasing the things;
you start following the other people; you start trapping yourself in the
possession of materialistic things. And hence, the more you try to chase the
things, the more your true happiness flies away from you.
Is your happiness internal or external?
Let’s find out whether your happiness
is internal or external.
• Whenever you see something good
things or right things, you feel good, and that good feelings bring you
happiness.
For instance: beautiful flowers,
green trees, birds and animals.
For instance: beautiful sound and
sweet songs.
• Whenever you smell something sweet
and delicious thing, you feel good, and that good feelings brings you
happiness.
For instance: fragrance of flowers
and perfume.
• Whenever you taste something good
things or right things, you feel good, and that good feelings bring you
happiness.
For instance: delicious foods and
sweet desserts etc.
For instance: a word of blessings; a
word of good wishes; a word of appreciations; and a word of sympathies.
• Whenever you think something about
good things or right things, you feel good, and that good feelings bring you
happiness.
For instance: good thoughts and good
ideas.
• Whenever you do something good
things or the right things, you feel good, and those good feelings bring you
happiness.
For instance: helping people, giving charities and working
for good causes.
From the above conditions, it is
obvious to you that your happiness is internal inspired by the external
sources.
It is also apparent to you that you
could only bring happiness in your life when you do good things or the right
things. On the contrary, if you always do bad things or the wrong things in
your life, then your bad deeds or wrongs deeds always bring you unhappiness in
your life. In fact, your life always urges you to do good deeds or right deeds
in your life no matter whatsoever happen.
In other words, your happiness
depends on your Karmas. If your Karma is good, then it will bring good result
for you, and good result will bring joy and happiness in your life. In the
similar manner, if your Karma is bad, then it will always bring bad result for
you, and bad result will always bring unhappiness and sorrows in your life.
It also clearly mentioned by Lord Buddha in his Noble
Eight fold Path:
1. Right View: Understanding the nature and cause of suffering and the method of
release.
2. Right Intention: Readiness to begin
renouncing attachment and cultivating compassion.
3. Right Speech: Using language impeccably,
avoiding lying, slander and verbal “violence.”
4. Right Action: Avoid harming ourselves and others
(needless killing, stealing, sensual obsession).
5. Right Livelihood: Earning a living that honors
ourselves and others.
6. Right Effort: Cultivating sincere
discipline, but not over-doing it.
Cultivating the habit of gently monitoring and shaping mental
content.
8. Right Meditation: Developing a practice of
focused, intentional consciousness.
When you follow all the above
Eight fold Paths of Lord Buddha then you will always become happy in your life.
Who will create your own happiness?
You are the creator of your own
happiness as well as your own unhappiness in your life. Your happiness is the
state of your own mind. It is the state which you only decide yourself. You
decide yourself whether you will remain happy or unhappy. You are the decision
maker. Since, there is no one in the entire world who will dare to make you happy
or unhappy without your own consent.
Let us suppose that if you decide to
remain happy throughout your day, then no one could ever dare to force you
unhappy even there would be external pressures or any circumstances. On the
other hand, if you already decide to remain unhappy, then no one would make you
happy even all the external sources are favorable to you. (External
sources means- your beloved ones, your spouse, your family, your friends, your
neighbors, your colleagues, your job, your Boss, your house, money, name, fame
etc.) Many times you might hear or read or watch in the newspaper or on
TV that the famous person or famous celebrity has committed suicide for some
personal reasons. What do you think that might drive them to commit such a
great blunder in their lives, even though they are so successful in their
professional lives? There is only one reason that is lack of happiness in their
lives.
Your happiness is the integral part
of your own life. Your happiness is the breath of your own life. Without
happiness, you can’t live your life.
The opposite of HAPPINESS is UNHAPPINESS, just an addition of suffix word ‘UN’ in HAPPINESS.
UNHAPPINESS = UN+HAPPINESS
What does it signify? The word
‘Happiness’ itself signifies that when you are not happy then you will become
‘Unhappy’, just a mere difference of suffix word ‘Un’ in happiness.
The moment you will give up your
happiness, the very moment your unhappiness and sorrows will follow in your
life. In other words, your happiness and unhappiness goes hand in hand like the
two sides of a same coin or like light and its shadow. You are responsible for
your own happiness as well as for your unhappiness.
Do you require many zillion of things to achieve happiness in
your life?
Let’s
understand what his holiness Dalai Lama said, “In identifying one ’s mental state
as the prime factor in achieving happiness, of course, that doesn ’t deny that
our basic physical needs for food, clothing, and shelter must be met. But once
these basic needs are met, the message is clear: we don’t need more money, we
don’t need greater success or fame, we don’t need the perfect body or even the
perfect mate- right now, at this very moment, we have a mind, which is all the
basic equipment we need to achieve complete happiness.”
Is your happiness and unhappiness permanent or temporary?
In the Bhagwad Gita, Lord Krishna
advised Arjuna about happiness and unhappiness when the former asked- “Arjuna,
everything comes and goes in life, Happiness and unhappiness are temporary
experiences that rise from sense perception. Heat and cold, pleasure and pain
will come and go. They never last forever. So, do not get attached to them.”
The fact of the matter is that
everything is temporary in this world; nothing is permanent in this world. But
with our own good karmas we will able to make our life happy.
“If one has obedient son, a pious wife following the Vedic path
and if one is satisfied with his material possessions, one is living verily in the
heaven.”
Anecdote:
Once in a village lived an old man
who used to complain about everything. He thought of himself as one of the most
unfortunate people in the world. He always stayed gloomy and in bad mood.
Whole village was tired of him. With
passing years he became more bile and used to utter more bitter words. People
were so fed up of him that they avoided him. Even for people who used to be
happy found it insulting to be happy next to him. Just his presence created the
feeling of unhappiness in others.
But one day, an incredible thing
happened. Everyone heard a rumor about the old man.
That day, some people from village
went to old man asked, “What happened to you?”
The old man replied, “Nothing. For
all my life I have been chasing happiness but it was useless. Today I decided
to live without thinking about wanting happiness and just enjoy life. That’s
why am happy.”
What is the moral of this story?
• Happiness will come to you if you stop worrying about it.
• You will never find your true happiness while chasing it.
• Give up your worries.
• Let it go.
• Accept the things which are
available at the present moment.
• Never complain about anything.
• Don’t repent of anything.
• Only you can create your
own fortune.
• Fill your life with love and compassion.
Can you attain happiness permanently
in your life?
Well, this question arises obviously
in your mind whether you could bring happiness permanently in your life or not.
Here is a question for you before you get this answer- Is everything permanent
in this world? I could guess that your answer is obviously no. Nothing is
permanent in this world. Everything is temporary in this world. Your happiness
is not permanent. But when you practice happiness in your life every day as a
ritual, your happiness will never leave you.
I am
happy with myself…..
I am happy with my beloved
ones…..
I am
happy with everybody….
I am happy because I love myself….
I am happy because everybody
loves me…..
Happiness
is my nature…..
It is my birthright to be happy forever…..
What happens when you always remain happy?
• You will become positive in your
life.
• You will enjoy your life.
• You will always remain blissfully.
• You will become an optimist.
• You will feel energized.
• You can focus on your work.
• You will become sound and healthy.
* When a person remains happy, it improves his health. It
helps him to eat healthier, more active and sleep better. Happiness leads to
healthier behaviors; it helps stave off high blood pressure and excess body
fat, resulting in lower risk of stroke and cardiovascular disease.
What happens when you always remain unhappy?
• You will become negative in your
life.
• You will complain about everything
in your life.
• You will always remain worry and
tension.
• You will become a pessimist.
• You will become weak and dull.
• You will distract from your work.
• You will become prone to disease.
* When a person remains unhappy, his mental and
physical health will hamper because his metabolism starts deteriorating. For
instance, decreased appetite, insomnia, lack of deep sleep, or oversleeping.
Unhappiness affects the lungs, the liver and the heart and may influence the
functional relationship between these organs. Unhappiness induces Heart/ Liver
Blood deficiency and may also impact the functions of the Uterus.
How can you become happy in your
life?
Before you explore your answer to
become happy in your life, let’s see the below conversation between a man and
his six years old daughter in an anecdote.
“Yes, I’m happy,” the daughter replied sweetly.
“Why are you happy?”
“I don’t know, daddy. I’m just
happy.”
The man didn’t get the points of his
daughter.
“What makes you happy?”
“I’m happy because I love my you,
daddy; I love my mummy; I love my little brother; I love my friends; I love my
teachers; I love my school; I love my studies; I love playing; I love my dolls;
I love my dresses; I love our pets….”the daughter explained.
“Very good,” the man said while giving a kiss to his
daughter.
What conclusion can you draw from
this small anecdote?
The first and foremost ingredient of
your happiness is love. You ought to love your beloved ones, your parents, your
spouse, your siblings, your friends, your colleagues and your Boss; your job/
profession; your workplace and your surroundings in order to become happy in
your life.
Ask these ten questions to yourself: Give
your answers in Yes/No (If your answer is No, then why? Explain?) 1. Do you
love yourself?
Yes/No
2. Do you love your beloved ones?
Yes/No
3. Do you love your parents?
Yes/No
4. Do you love your spouse?
Yes/No
5. Do you love your siblings?
Yes/No
6. Do you love your friends?
Yes/No
7. Do you love your colleagues?
Yes/No
Yes/No
9. Do you love your job/ profession?
Yes/No
10. Do you love your surroundings?
Yes/No
Follow the following key
points to become happy in your life:
• Your happiness is the state of your
mind. Therefore, control your mind. • You have to make your own decision
whether you would want to remain happy or unhappy in your life. Since, nobody
can make you happy or unhappy without your consent.
• Understand your own likes
and dislikes.
• Don’t do anything unethical thing in your life.
• Never hurt anyone.
• Give your love to every living creature.
• Forgive yourself and others.
• Forget your past and live in your present moment.
• Don’t worry too much for your future.
• Focus on your present life.
• Grow every day and
every moment.
• Pray for yourself and pray for everybody.
“Happiness
is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”
---Dalai Lama
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